LIFE // Things I Ponder ...

Self-love. Two words that make me feel angry, confused, and yet a little intrigued all at the same time.
In the past week, I've reflected a lot on this topic & it really got me thinking...
Where does love for oneself come from anyway? Is this something that you are just born with? Do your parents teach it to you? Or do you learn it? How the hell does one have self-love?

So many questions, so little answers.

I thought long and hard about the questions above and I came up with this - self-love seems to have everything to do with how others view you, and nothing to do with how you view yourself. We live in a world where we think we know who people are based on the stereotypes we are given and where beauty can be found in a magazine. We, unfortunately, live in a society that is so narrow-minded.

I'm not saying that there isn't anyone in this world that doesn't love themselves & others with all they have - take Kanye for example ... Just kidding! Bad example, but you get my point. What I'm trying to say is that a lot of people in this world, myself included, base their worth on the opinions of others.

Have you ever stopped to think about how not one single person on this planet is the same? So how can we so easily tell the world what beauty is, inside & out, and what we should all strive to be? Isn't beauty in the eye of the beholder?

I find it quite quizzical that it's said that 'we all have imperfections!' as if to make someone feel better about themselves. But why are they imperfect? Who is the judge of what's perfect and what's not? I feel like this is a never ending black-hole of questions - but honestly, have you ever stopped to think about where you get your ideals of 'perfect' from? Are you able to see the beauty in things that most can't?

We live in a time where social media is what makes the world go round. We get relationship advice from Joe Schmo in an article titled '10 Ways To Save Your Marriage!' instead of learning how to communicate with our better-half. We let it tell us that we aren't living our lives to the fullest because we aren't on some cliff in some tropical place, staying in a resort that drains your bank account; but it makes the pictures on Instagram tell the world how awesome you are. We let different Instagram accounts and pages on Facebook tell us what an ideal body type is, or what our life-goals should be. This completely boggles me. These things are up to you and nobody else. It's that simple.

I challenge you to literally stop. Sit there with no phone, a nice cup o' joe, and just think. Think about all you have to be grateful for. Think of the small things that make you happy. Think about how you are one person upon billions and billions of others, and that you are amazing just the way you are. You are you. Learn to enjoy the silence, see your imperfections as perfect, and dammit, be OK with who you are; because you are amazing. Find the beauty within yourself, others, and your surroundings.

I'm starting to do my #100daystohappiness on my Instagram account to remind myself, and others, that there is something positive in each day. I challenge you to do the same! And please tag me because I'd love to have extra smiles in a day! :)


K. xo