A squabble, our wedding venue cancelled, and two wasp stings. All in a short two hours - a day from HELL.
Now, if you’ve never been stung before, I will let you in on a little secret … They HURT like a son of a gun! And if those aren’t enough to send you over the edge on a bad day, then you are some sort of mutant ninja made out of steel and I am slightly jealous.
Those short two hours were enough emotional stimulation to put anyone over the deep-end; not just my soft, peachy ol’ self.
After what I thought was possibly the shittiest of shitty days, I was certain that a migraine would form and I’d fall under my dark, ominous cloud. But I didn’t. Pardon? How can this be? This was something that left me crying a river, but yet I’m OK? No, no … something can’t be right here. This is a trigger, so where in the hell is my cloud? I waited… but nothing.
I realized so quickly in that moment, that those two hours, were completely out of my control; which for me, is a little scary. I like plans, I like order, and I like to be in control. It’s just who I am! But this time, I let go.
I realized very quickly that you can’t be everything to everyone, which is something that I so often try to be. I also realized that everything happens for a reason, which is a statement that I honestly and truly believe in. Our wedding venue got cancelled, only to show us that there was something even more perfect waiting; I got stung by a wasp not only once, but twice! Only to prove to myself that I can handle my last straw being pulled & still be OK. I’m much stronger than I give myself credit for! I mean … My spaghetti strings could probably lift some weights here and there… but you get my point!
"The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." - Williams James
Here’s a little something I learnt: You are going to bark up the wrong tree, more than once. You are going to get disheartening news, and you are definitely going to experience physical pain at some point. But this is LIFE. Does this mean that these types of things will never bother me ever again? Probably not.
But, the most important thing to remember is that YOU cannot be EVERYTHING to EVERYONE. It’s impossible! Trust me, I’ve tried. You just have to keep being you, and doing what you’re doing, because the list of people that admire you, is MUCH longer than the list of the ones who don’t. Know that things really DO happen for a reason; whether it is a lesson or a blessing, take it for what it is and move on & never let any type of pain, take away your strength.
I am writing to let whoever is reading this that is having a bad day, no matter how big or small the situation is, to know that everything will always be OK. It may not seem like it right now, but there is always light at the end of a tunnel, so keep your chin up – you never know who you are inspiring.